Emerging Adults and Togetherness
I’m reading a book called, “Souls in Transition: The
Religious and Spiritual Lives of Emerging Adults,” by sociologist Christian
Smith. The research Smith has done is a mine of information about people aged 18-29.
The findings, however, would not surprise most people.
“The features marking this stage (of life) are intense
identity exploration, instability, a focus on self, feeling in limbo or in
transition or in between, and a sense of possibilities, opportunities, and unparalleled
hope,” says Smith. “These, of course, are also often accompanied…by large doses
of transience, confusion, anxiety, self-obsession, melodrama, conflict,
disappointment, and sometimes emotional devastation.”
One thing that occurs to me about this group is that, like
the rest of us, they didn’t choose to be born and grow up when they did. Like
every generation, they must take the good with the bad and make the best of the
cards they are dealt.
While many in other generations may have found joy and
fulfillment in a relationship with God and religion, many of today’s young
people simply don’t get it. For a variety of reasons, it’s hard for them to
embrace God or see the value in religion. For many, this has produced a sense
of freedom, but also anxiety.
Smith’s research describes six characteristics of emerging
adults related to God and religion. Obviously, they are generalizations and
don’t apply to all emerging adults.
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They focus on individuality, personal
relationships, independence and personal autonomy. Participation in religion
interferes with “identity differentiation” from their parents.
·
They are accustomed to continual change,
including instability in their home lives, jobs and finance. They have no
problem in delaying marriage and child bearing.
·
They are optimistic and shun regrets. They are
turned off by the gloominess of many religions.
·
They are tolerant and supportive of different
kinds of people, lifestyles, faiths and no faiths. They perceive that choosing
one religion disparages the choices of others and see religion as a “lifestyle
choice.” Religion also interferes with “keeping your options open,” making it
hard to commit.
·
They view themselves as the ultimate judges and
arbiters of right and wrong, which they see as generally easy calls to make. They
usually follow what feels right or
wrong. They don’t embrace objective moral standards or ethics “experts.”
·
They see education as a way to reach the goal of
a “good life,” and embrace consumerism. Social justice, volunteerism and giving
to causes are not priorities.
They believe they can have little
influence on public affairs.
Some of these characteristics, such as optimism and
tolerance, are amenable to faith. Others are indifferent or hostile to it. In
my view, a focus on individuality, the expectation of instability, the
difficulty in committing, the rejection of objective moral standards and the
embrace of consumerism make the Christian faith difficult to embrace.
Still, one area of Christianity that may be appealing to
young people is the sense of belonging. Ok, so young people aren’t big joiners
in the traditional sense. The Rotary Club or Lions Club can tell you how
difficult it is to recruit young people.
But I believe emerging adults are more social than any
generation I’ve seen. They have large numbers of friends, real-time and on-line.
They like to exercise and eat together, and share their free time with others.
They love to listen to music and watch musicians together at concerts. For
them, what others are doing, watching, eating, playing is as important as ever.
Emerging adults are as loving, or more so, than people in
the past. They aren’t afraid to say, “I love you.” No doubt about it, young people
today feel a need for others, and Christianity, at least, is all about
togetherness.
That may be a double-edged sword for many young people. According
to the research, young people focus on individuality, but they’re very much
into togetherness. I don’t find those incompatible, nor is it only in young
people that you find both preferences in one person.
Christianity recognizes the importance of developing a “personal
relationship” with God and promotes private prayer. However, no relationship
with God, according to Christian tradition, is exclusive, and the Christian
Bible is big on the notion that we’re all in this together. That’s why you
can’t be a Christian and not care about others or the human community.
It can’t be about Jesus and me. Jesus’ most famous prayer is
“OUR Father.” The Christian community – the Body of Christ, the People of God –
is a family, not a club or organization. And like all families, it’s about
relationships, to God and others. The religious family may be dysfunctional; it
may include those “weird uncles” who are jerks and creeps; but it’s still family.
If you have a good family, you know how important it is. If you don’t, maybe
you should try a Christian community.
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