Practical Tips for Controlling Stress
Last week I wrote about anxiety and the frontal lobe,
relating how that part of the brain is responsible for humans’ ability to
project into the future. Missing that function would relegate us to a perpetual
present, preventing us from predicting and planning.
That function is also a source of anxiety, however, causing
us to worry about what may or may not happen. Typically, we worry – often
excessively – about jobs, money, relationships, illness and death. Anxiety disorders
affect over 40 million Americans and stress is almost pervasive.
I believe all that anxiety and stress is an obstacle in our
search for God.
So here are some practical tips for minimizing feelings of anxiety.
(I understand that it’s easy for me, a retired guy, to give advice to people
who still have to make a living, compete, start or raise families and pay
bills, but look at it this way: I have the leisure to think about such things
and the hindsight for insight. I also understand that some of these tips may appear
to be mere clichés, but there is wisdom even in clichés.)
·
Force yourself to be rational. Calculate the
real risk that the bad things you worry about will actually happen.
·
Put your worries in perspective. This is
particularly applicable when worrying about money in light of the fact that
nearly 2.4 billion people in the world live on less than $2 a day. Do you live
in a house or apartment? Do you drive a car? Do you eat when you want to? Then
you’re privileged, and comparatively, your life is a walk in the park.
·
Count your blessings. When feeling sorry for
ourselves, we often entertain the notion that “everyone else” is doing better
than us, and that we are bound to have more bad luck. We ignore the many good
things in our past and present, which are predictors of good things to come.
·
Adopt the attitude of the old song, “Que Será, Será,
whatever will be, will be.” Worrying can’t change anything.
·
Connect your worry to your search for God,
remembering the gospel passage I quoted last week, in which Jesus says, “Therefore I tell you, don’t worry about your
life and what you will eat, or about your body and what you will wear. For life
is more than food and the body more than clothing. Notice the ravens: they do
not sow or reap; they have neither storehouse nor barn, yet God feeds them. How
much more important are you than birds! Can any of you by worrying add a moment
to your lifespan? If even the smallest things are beyond your control, why are
you anxious about the rest?”
·
Take your anxiety to God in prayer. You may not
be sure that God is there to hear you and may have the feeling that you’re
“praying to yourself,” but the Nike logo is relevant here: “Just do it!” Pray,
especially, for faith and for the gift of seeing things as they are.
·
No matter what, no matter how distant you may feel
from him/her, know that God won’t forget you. The author of Isaiah, Chapter 49,
makes that clear when speaking on God’s behalf: “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no
compassion on the child she
has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!”
I’m
reminded that much of what we know about Alzheimer’s disease comes from The
Nuns Study, a research project of the National Institutes of Health of 678
American nuns. I read a fascinating book a few years ago on the subject called,
“Aging with Grace:
What the Nun Study Teaches Us About Leading Longer, Healthier, and More
Meaningful Lives,” by Alzheimer’s researcher David Snowdon. I was moved by his
story of an aging nun who had recently been diagnosed with the disease talking
to another nun who was a long-time friend. “I’m afraid I’ll forget Jesus,” the
first nun told her friend. “Don’t worry,” the friend answered. “Jesus won’t
forget you.”
Anxiety is controllable. If it weren’t, people wouldn’t
spend billions on drugs and therapists to help them do it. Of course, it’s not
completely controllable. The evolution of human frontal lobe made sure of that.
It’s natural and beneficial for us to be able to predict what will happen in
the next hour, day or week, and that often causes anxiety. Exaggerated anxiety,
based on distorted and unrealistic predictions about our future, is the
problem.
This blog is not about psychology, of course, and I’m no
therapist. I’m interested in how anxiety affects faith, and I believe it robs
us of our ability to focus on our search for God. It doesn’t allow the time or calm
necessary to discern our own mind and feelings and relate them to the bigger
questions.
So, relax, be happy and remember that the search for God is
two-sided. From all we know about God, he/she is also searching for us. And
thank him/her for the frontal lobe. We would be severely disabled without it. But
we’re its masters, not the other way around.
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