Finding God in Crises
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I’m reading
a novel by Jodi Picoult called The Pact. It’s about a boy and girl who grow up
as neighbors, are inseparable from childhood and become teenaged sweethearts.
The girl begins feeling smothered by the relationship and, seeing no way to
avoid disappointing the boy, his parents and her parents – who were also best
friends - she becomes desperate to the point of taking her own life.
She enlists
the boy to help her shoot herself and he becomes the principle suspect in what
authorities believe to have been a homicide, not a suicide. The families are
torn apart and inconsolable. They become enemies. The book does a good job
exploring the dreadful world of teen suicide and its effects on families.
It’s hard to
imagine losing a son or daughter to suicide. Often accompanied by the
bitterness of guilt and anger, it must be among the most devastating events
that can occur in one’s life.
Last week, I
mentioned Lutheran theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who was imprisoned and
executed by the Nazis in 1945. In his
Letters and Papers from Prison he described how some of his fellow prisoners
underwent conversion, desperately reaching out to God to save them from the
horrors of prison and probable execution. Bonhoeffer worried that these
conversions lacked the sincerity and commitment necessary to sustain faith.
It may be
true that human suffering, physical or psychological, is not a good motivation
for conversion, but belief in God is
often decisive for people who go through such trials. I always feel compassion
for people who have no apparent relationship to God who go through
life-changing, calamitous events. I write “apparent” because you never know
about the quantity or quality of another’s faith, no matter the appearances.
As odd as it
seems, I am also saddened to read newspaper obituaries that make no mention of
a religious connection to the deceased. How unfortunate if the person didn’t
experience the joy and comfort of God’s company in his or her last days. How
burdensome for the person’s family. I understand that a funeral in a church
doesn’t mean the deceased had any quality relationship with God. It’s not an
automatic thing. But it’s pretty safe to assume that the person at least had the
opportunity.
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As I’ve
mentioned before, when I’m lost for words in communicating with God I often
turn to the psalms, those poem/songs written by believers 3,000 or so years
ago. It’s amazing how these ancient writings can speak to the emotions of
people today. The psalms’ authors pour out their hearts to God. Often the
psalms reflect people in crises, some apparently on the verge of despair. Many display
the natural fear of death and resistance to its inevitability.
Consider
Psalm 89 (in Catholic Bibles), shortened here to conserve space:
O Lord, you
have been our refuge
From one
generation to the next.Before the mountains were born
Or the earth or the world brought forth,
You are God, without beginning or end.
You turn men
back into dust
And say: “Go
back, sons of men.”To your eyes a thousand years
Are like yesterday, come and gone,
No more than a watch in the night.
You sweep
men away like a dream,
Like grass
which springs up in the morning.In the morning it springs up and flowers:
By evening it withers and fades.
Or eighty for those who are strong.
…Make us
know the shortness of our life
That we may
gain wisdom of heart.…In the morning, fill us with your love;
We shall exalt and rejoice all our days.
Give us joy to balance our affliction
For the years when we knew misfortune.
Our lives
are ships on a capricious sea. We sail along, living and loving life. But
storms can hit us unexpectedly and some of them can be so severe we don’t know
how to cope. It may not be the best time for a “conversion,” as Bonhoeffer
wrote, but if God is in your life, you have an invaluable gift.
Faith is
hard, but not as hard as having none. It can get you through any crisis, even
those as horrific as losing a child to suicide.
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