An Antidote for FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)
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But I understand that like most technological advances, social media have their negatives. For one thing, they can become addictive. People get hooked and become glued to their phones. Others become dependent on social media’s “news” content instead of turning to legitimate and reliable news outlets that reflect a range of views.
But I recently learned from National Public
Radio’s program, “Hidden Brain,” of another risk of dependence on social media.
Social scientists discussed the results of a study showing that social media
make some people unhappy because they are more likely to compare their lives with others. And some have FOMO, the fear of missing out.
More Socially Isolated“Studies show that people who spend more time on social media sites feel more socially isolated than those who don't. This might be because of a disconnect between our online lives and our real ones.
“You compare yourself to
others more often, you judge yourself, you (ask), “Am I better or worse than my
friends? Am I happier? Are they happier?
“Being engaged in excessive
social comparison decreased one's happiness. So it's not that you think that
others are happier than you are, but you need to prove yourself to yourself
over and over again, and these social comparison engagement makes you less
happy.”
Barbara Kahn, a researcher
at the University of Pennsylvania who studies decision-making, thinks that
seeing our friends having fun on social media also taps into our social anxiety
about belonging to the group, and that produces FOMO.
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No, many people don’t. And
that brings us to the question of what accounts for a sense of self-worth.
Therapists deal with this
issue on a daily basis and are undoubtedly helpful to people with this problem.
I’d like to take a stab at it from a “religious” point of view.
Some people say religion instills a sense of guilt that makes
people less confident and less sure about their worth, and I’m sure that
religion has had that effect on some, similarly to how some antibiotics have
negative effects on some people. But modern medicine would be in trouble
without antibiotics, and I believe people in our age are in trouble without
religion.
Loves Us Unconditionally
Religions such as Christianity and Judaism portray God as a parent who loves us unconditionally, who accepts us despite our failings and defects. There is a no more forceful example of that than in the parable of the Prodigal Son in the Christian Bible.
Religions such as Christianity and Judaism portray God as a parent who loves us unconditionally, who accepts us despite our failings and defects. There is a no more forceful example of that than in the parable of the Prodigal Son in the Christian Bible.
The father in Jesus’ story sees the son returning home after
years of blowing his inheritance in every direction. “But while he was yet a
distance,” says the Gospel of Luke, “his father saw him and had compassion, and
ran and embraced him and kissed him.”
Despite all the stereotypes of religious people, those who take
their faith seriously aren't envious of someone else’s apparent good
fortune or happiness, whether depicted on social media or not. And if they are
faithful to their beliefs, they're not vulnerable to FOMO.
Faith, contrary to the common wisdom, provides a healthy sense of self-worth.
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