Why We Fail at Being Spiritual OR Religious
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My mother was devoted to Mary, and was also a pray-er. She
and my Dad made sure we attended church and received the sacraments and sent us
to parochial school, and they were obviously eager for us to know right from
wrong and to always choose the former. But I don’t remember them ever saying
why they were believers, let alone preaching to us.
All the recent reports of emptying church pews have brought
on a slew of articles about what people believe and why. Many have focused on
the “spiritual versus religious” controversy; that is, people –
especially young people – who say they’re spiritual but not religious.
Self-identify in Four Categories
A graph in a recent edition of the National Catholic Reporter shows a sort of pie chart on people who identify in four categories: “spiritual and religious;” “spiritual but not religious;” “not spiritual but religious;” and “neither spiritual nor religious.”
A graph in a recent edition of the National Catholic Reporter shows a sort of pie chart on people who identify in four categories: “spiritual and religious;” “spiritual but not religious;” “not spiritual but religious;” and “neither spiritual nor religious.”
About half of respondents to the survey the chart illustrates
- conducted by the Public Religion Research Institute at the University of Florida
in 2017 - identify as either “spiritual and religious” or “spiritual but not
religious.” Another 30 percent identify as “neither spiritual nor religious.”
I understand why people would self-identify in these three
categories. What I don’t understand is the 22 percent who identify as “not
spiritual but religious.” How can you be religious without being spiritual?
Tomas Halik
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Spiritual: 1. “Of, relating to, consisting of, or affecting
the spirit.” Religious: 1. “Relating to or manifesting faithful devotion to an
acknowledged ultimate reality or deity.”
So, theoretically, at least, a person could be spiritual,
interested in and relating to the spirit as opposed to just the physical, but
not interested in or relating to an “ultimate reality” or deity. But be
spiritual and not religious? No religion I know of ignores the spirit.
I say “theoretically” because I believe that although
possible, it’s very hard to be spiritual without the help and support of
religion and its vast experience in the spiritual. Nonetheless, I know there
are lots of people who try it, or at least want to be spiritual, and for those
people there is hope they will find God.
I’m sure everyone who rejects God and/or religion has
his/her own reasons for doing so. But here are some of the most common reasons
I believe people have abandoned religion, at least in western countries: relative prosperity
and its accompanying commercialism and consumerism; absence of wars that touch
most western people; the influence of modern media, starting in the 1980s with
TV shows like Friends and Seinfeld; scandals in the church, especially the
Catholic church; and the inability of churches and synagogues to speak to the
needs of contemporary people.
Another is the popular notion that there’s an inherent
conflict between belief and science. If I’m religious, I can’t be “scientific;”
or, if it can’t be detected or measured, it doesn’t exist, pretty much sinking
the notion of the “spiritual.”
Reasons of Which Reason Knows Nothing
In his book, “I want you to be: On the God of Love,” Czech philosopher and theologian Tomas Halik quotes the famous mystic John of the Cross as saying that faith is knowledge that “exceeds all human reason,” and St. Augustine, who said, “The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.”
In his book, “I want you to be: On the God of Love,” Czech philosopher and theologian Tomas Halik quotes the famous mystic John of the Cross as saying that faith is knowledge that “exceeds all human reason,” and St. Augustine, who said, “The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.”
Halik, who has specialized in studying and dialoguing with
non-believers, believes that the most common reason for rejecting God is that
someone has an idea of God that is psychologically or morally unacceptable for
them (that is, the idea of a tyrannical, punitive schoolmaster, associated with
childhood traumas and a twisted religious upbringing)….” They reject a
caricature of God in the name of human liberty.
Another way of looking at faith, however, isn’t as another
word for “belief,” but as a relationship to God and others. And at this time of
year when many people are making resolutions, it’s good to remember that it’s
hard to blame God for our lack of faith.
Matthew Kelly, author of the book, “Perfectly Yourself,” puts
it this way: “Diets don’t fail. We fail at diets. Savings plans don’t fail. We
fail at savings plans. Exercise routines don’t fail. We fail at exercise
routines. Relationships don’t fail. We fail at relationships.”
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